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How To Know If He Wants More Than Just Sex

If you want a long term relationship with a man then read this story taken from my book. Pass this advice by and it could mean the difference between losing and keeping a great man!

Gloria had been dating online recently and had been out with two guys. One was named Jason and the other Philip.

She and Jason "hit it off" right away as she put it. She came to me seeking advise and described her first date with him. Gloria said they went to dinner and had some drinks. They laughed all night and teased each other quite a bit. The banter was easy and jovial and they didn't talk about anything too serious. She said she had a blast because it was all just so light and comfortable.

At the end of the night, Jason didn't want to go home yet because he said he was having such a great time he didn't want to leave. Neither did Gloria so she invited him over for a night cap and well, yep, they ended up in bed and having sex.

Jason said he would like to see her again the following weekend and they texted a few times during the week. When the weekend approached, Jason said he forgot he had to help a friend paint his new kitchen and couldn't meet up.

Problem was, that happened quite a few times thereafter and the only times that she saw Jason over the next few weeks was when she would go over to his house for a movie and, you may have guessed it...sex.

She really liked Jason she said and was disappointed that he was too busy to go out. She also wished he would call a bit more often but hey, people get busy right? So she hung on to him and this pattern they had until he didn't call for 10 days straight and then she went on another date.

This guy's name was Phil and he was really different. He wanted to know things about Gloria, what her dreams were, what her family was like. It was an entirely different date but in a good way. He seemed genuinely interested in what she was all about.

Phil was a doctor; really cared about his patients, told her some compelling stories and he had a passion for scuba diving. He asked her if she would like to go that weekend to learn how, his treat.

Every date thereafter felt right and was fun.

So then Gloria got to thinking and came to me for some serious advice and told me about Phil. "He's so perfect, she said, but I just can't seem to forget about Jason. I really liked him!"

Well... I have heard this story time and time again. Gloria was so attached to Jason because she slept with him. I had to point out the cold, hard truth. Jason did not like Gloria, he liked having sex with her. Don't make the same mistake:
Ask yourself does he like you, or just having sex with you?

Unfortunately, it isn't entirely Gloria's fault for feeling that way. I mean, we all get attached to some degree after we've had sex with a man. It's in our blood. And this is exactly why it is so important to take heed this one piece of critical advice:

If he likes you, he will wait. If he doesn't want to wait, he's probably not that into you. Full stop.

I am sure that there is an exception out there but I haven't met him. I have NEVER in my life met a man that was actually interested in me but wasn't willing to wait to have sex, EVER.

So beware of falling for Jason. If the man you are dating always sees you on his terms and doesn't seem to want to do anything that doesn't end up in the bedroom, he probably only likes you physically.