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What Do Men Really Want In A Woman?

Yep, what do men want? It's the million dollar question isn't it and not knowing what men want can drive us girls crazy and ultimately lead to a lot of failed relationships and tears.

I was lying in the bath just the other night and pondering on this question and here's what I came up with:

Now my belief is that for many of us women we crave at a basic level to be swept off our feet and taken care of. To have a solid rock by our side, someone who'll love and support us and yes.... be our hero.

BUT... we're afraid to let go and be honest with ourselves about our true feelings. I honestly believe that men and women fundamentally want the same core qualities in a partner, but somehow along the way we've both got scared at how to express the feelings and desires.

The thing is, we know a guy wants a woman that's confident and independent so if he wants that how can we also be the woman that wants to be swept up and looked after too? They don't seem to go hand in hand do they?

Well, as with most aspects of our lives there's a balance to be had so lets look at what men want in a woman and see where we can have a bit of both.

1. Men want a confident, smart woman. For him this makes him proud to be with you, he'll enjoy telling his friends all about how great you are and just as importantly it allows him his freedom. He can feel free to go off and do his own thing without fear that you'll be jealous, left out or needing him to spend time with you to be happy.
   
2. Men want a woman they can trust. Trust really is the absolute basic foundation of any good relationship and a man needs to know he can trust you to be able to go to each next level in the relationship with you.
   
3. Men want a woman that appreciates them. We all do don't we, but so often we focus on the negative aspects and we forget all the great things and attributes our man has, so tell him. Be clear about what he does you love and how it makes you feel. Leave the criticism at the door and focus entirely on all the good stuff he does and then watch how much more he wants to do for you!
   
4. Men want a woman that's consistent. They want to know where they are with you. This isn't to say you can't be unpredictable and create fun suprises to keep things interesting, but fundamentally he wants to know you're emotionally stable, trustworthy and someone he can rely on.
5. Men want a woman that's forgiving. Show him your grace when he messes up. So often we can fall into the critical, competing or worse still mothering mode. Notice when you do it and stop! Men get enough competition at work and they don't need it in their partner. We all mess up every now and then and unless it's something huge you're going to find hard to forgive, then be the one to lead with your feminine grace.

OK, so to re-cap, resist the temptation to compete, be critical or mothering towards your man. If you're feeling jealous check if it's something he's doing wrong or is it your fears that are driving what you say to him.

Understanding what men want and your man in particular can be a constant challenge, but hopefully an enjoyable one and one that will lead you to having an amazing, long lasting and loving relationship.